Need help dealing with a family member?

You need to top worrying what other family members will think of you IF you do stand up to her...WHY should you have to feel dread every time the family gets together?? I personally would let familty members know WHY I would not attend anymore!! I don't speak to my husbands family as they have done a few things and never talked about it or apologized to me or my daughter,,,,I used to grin and bear going to their get togethers and I finally had enough